扎克伯格为华裔妻子立雕像，营造网上最受欢迎的“妻控”人设
北京时间8月16日，Facebook创始人马克·扎克伯格似乎正努力成为互联网上最受欢迎的“妻控”。他最近的一番操作可能暴露了他的婚姻问题。周二，扎克伯格在网上公布了他送给自己的大学恋人、结婚12年的妻子普莉希拉·陈的一份礼物：一个7英尺高的普莉希拉的雕像。扎克伯格在Instagram上的一个帖子中开玩笑地说，这是为了重现罗马人为妻子做雕像的传统。照片中，普莉希拉站在一座高大的青绿色和银色雕像旁边，啜饮咖啡杯。
该雕像由纽约当代艺术家丹尼尔·阿尔沙姆制作。不过，由于这对夫妇的结婚纪念日是在5月，而普莉希拉的生日是在2月，所以这份礼物似乎不是根据特定日子送出的。Instagram网友们对于扎克伯格的此举的看法也存在分歧。一些人称赞扎克伯格浪漫，另一些人则认为“尴尬”，因为雕像是用来纪念死去亲人的。
美国马萨诸塞州专门从事夫妻关系治疗的临床心理学家伊莎贝尔·莫利认为，如此奢侈的礼物可能是一个危险信号。莫利指出，对于超级富豪来说，昂贵的礼物可能并不那么重要。阿尔沙姆的作品在一些在线平台的售价超过2.9万美元。而《福布斯》富豪榜显示，截至今年8月15日，扎克伯格的净资产超过1690亿美元。但莫利认为，不管送礼者多么有钱，都应该考虑送这件礼物的目的是什么。
莫利说，对于那些家境不太富裕、努力工作以保持经济稳定的人来说，一份奢侈的礼物可以展示他们的进步，同时又不期待太多回报。“这是一种对他们努力成果的尊重，同时也是展示他们成就的一种方式，也是照顾所爱之人的方式。”她说。然而，莫利补充说，奢侈的礼物有时也可能是试图操纵收礼者或引起他们的特定反应。
在扎克伯格给妻子做雕像这件事中，莫利认为最大的危险信号是，“他委托别人制作了这件作品，花了不知多少钱，是否是为了期望得到某种特定的反应或回应”。
莫利称，有些处于恋爱关系中的人会很快在网上发布内容并赞美他们的伴侣。扎克伯格此次在Instagram上发布了雕像的照片，与他的1450万庞大粉丝群体分享了这份礼物。莫利想知道为什么。“这真的只是为了表达他对她的深爱和感激之情，展示她是怎样的人，以及她在他生命中的作用吗？”她说，“还是为了让他在别人眼中看起来不错，并从她那里得到某种情感回应。”
莫利说，她特别注意那些觉得“有必要在精心策划的社交媒体平台上公开秀恩爱”的夫妇。她读过的一些研究表明，这样的表现可能表明夫妻在现实生活中不那么幸福。
最终，莫利表示，这份礼物是甜蜜的还是尴尬的，只有普莉希拉知道。不过，看起来这座雕像得到了普莉希拉的认可。她在扎克伯格的帖子下评论道：“是不是我这样的人越多越好？”并附上一个红心表情，而她的丈夫则回复道：“永远如此”，同样加上一个红心表情。“如果她觉得这很甜蜜，那它就是甜蜜的。”莫利说。
英语如下：
News Title: “Zuckerberg’s Statue Dedication for Wife Sparks Controversy”
Keywords: Zuckerberg, Statue, Manipulation of Image
News Content:
Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, has sparked controversy by dedicating a statue to his Chinese-American wife, reinforcing his online image as the most beloved “wifey-husbandy” (“妻控”).
On August 16, Beijing time, Zuckerberg appeared to be making efforts to become the most beloved “wifey-husbandy” on the internet. His recent actions may have exposed marital issues. On Tuesday, Zuckerberg posted on the internet a gift he gave to his college sweetheart and wife of 12 years, Priscilla Chan: a 7-foot-tall statue of Priscilla. In a post on Instagram, Zuckerberg joked that it was to recreate the tradition of Roman wives being honored with statues. In the photo, Priscilla stands beside a tall, green-and-silver statue, sipping from a coffee cup.
The statue was created by contemporary New York artist Daniel Arsham. However, since the couple’s wedding anniversary is in May, and Priscilla’s birthday is in February, the gift seems not to have been given on a specific day. Opinions on Zuckerberg’s move on Instagram were divided. Some praised him for his romantic gesture, while others found it “embarrassing,” as statues are traditionally made to honor deceased relatives.
Isabel Moreno, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy in Massachusetts, believes that such an extravagant gift could be a warning sign. Moreno points out that for super-wealthy individuals, expensive gifts may not be as significant. Arsham’s works sell for over $29,000 on some online platforms, while the “Forbes” billionaire list shows that as of August 15, Zuckerberg’s net worth exceeds $169 billion. However, Moreno believes that regardless of the giver’s wealth, the purpose of the gift should be considered.
Moreno says that for those who are not as wealthy and work hard to maintain economic stability, an extravagant gift can show their progress without expecting much in return. “It’s a sign of respect for their efforts and a way to showcase their achievements, as well as a way to care for the people they love,” she says. However, Moreno adds that extravagant gifts can sometimes be attempts to manipulate the recipient or elicit a specific reaction.
In Zuckerberg’s case, Moreno sees the biggest red flag in the fact that “he commissioned this piece at an unknown cost, wondering if it was to expect a specific reaction or response.”
Moreno says that some people in romantic relationships quickly post content online to praise their partners. Zuckerberg shared the statue’s photo on Instagram, with his massive 145 million followers, and Moreno wonders why. “Is it really to express his deep love and gratitude for her, to show who she is and her role in his life?” she says, “or to make himself look good in others’ eyes and get a certain emotional response from her?”
Moreno says she pays special attention to couples who feel the need to publicly show their love on carefully planned social media platforms. She has read some studies indicating that such displays may indicate less happiness in real life.
Ultimately, Moreno says whether the gift is sweet or embarrassing is only known by Priscilla. However, it appears that the statue has been accepted by Priscilla. She commented under Zuckerberg’s post, “Does it mean the more people like this, the better?” with a red heart emoji, and her husband replied, “Forever,” also adding a red heart emoji. “If she finds it sweet, then it is sweet,” Moreno says.
【来源】https://www.ithome.com/0/789/102.htm
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